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by Mary Winter
Some seasons, such as spring and summer, lend themselves especially well to talking about sexuality. After all, spring brings to mind rabbits, flowers, and eggs, all symbols of a fertile world. Summer's warm weather means wearing less clothing, moving from jeans to shorts or even to bikinis. The baring of skin conjures lusty thoughts. But when the weather cools and fall arrives, making us wear sweaters and sweatshirts, we may not think about baring it all. At least, not in public. |
But as the weather gets cooler, my thoughts turn to more indoor activities. Just because the fall holidays deal with such weighty topics as thankfulness (Mabon) and death (Samhain) doesn't mean that this time of year has to be gloomy. What better way to show your appreciation for that special someone, then by spending an evening curled up together watching a movie. Even if it is just cuddling, that time together cultivates an awareness that enhances sacred sexuality.
In fact, the fall weather that drives us indoors provides several opportunities to take the awareness lessons of the last couple months and put them to good use. The cuddling mentioned in the previous chapter is a start. However, here are a couple more ideas.
Schedule a date. Take an evening, an entire day, and devote it to nothing but your partner. You can start out in bed, end up there, or never even leave. Orgasms are not the goal here. Instead, the goal is to get to know your partner's body. What he (or she) likes and dislikes. What turns him (or her) on, and what takes the flame of desire and puts it on slow simmer. Let your bodies and your desires take the lead here and let you know what you should be doing.
Try something new. You don't have to become sexual gymnasts. Even if it's a new restaurant, a new theater, just try something new. The shared experience of discovery will help to bring you closer together and foster closeness.
Fall begins a cycle of introspection. The harvest is in, both physically and spiritually. Whatever seeds have been sown throughout the year are coming to fruition now. It's time to gather them up and see what we have. And, make plans to change next year's harvest now. This makes fall a perfect time for fostering closeness and thankfulness with your partner.
Plan now to make this a fall to remember. Who knows? Maybe you won't even notice the chilly temperatures because you're heating up the sheets!
Bio
Mary Winter prides herself on being a new age girl (just like the song